Thursday, September 30, 2004

Click if you dare...

Presenting Steven Lim, the stripper of Singapore Idol.

Things i do & think about at 5:16am

Sooooooo glad that Eve made it over to my place. Until confinement, one will never understand the beauty of a shower. Unless you've been in the jungle or OBS lah... but that's a different story. It's amazing how newborns have survived even though Chinese mothers are not allowed to make themselves clean. And to adjust to a new life while having to observe confinement traditions is really SURVIVOR series. They should make one of those series on pure confinement, no corner cuttings watsover. See the real b***hing take place. They should get irregular doses and extractions of hormones, just like the real thing, and see their b***hing take on new levels.

Anyway, Abby's schedule went off after the last entry. Woke up at 4.30pm and then at 6.30pm. So much for wanting to stretch to 3hr min. Then fed her while Eve showered, and she MERLIONED. She did so once the day before also. When a new mother has never seen her baby throw up that much, it can get frantic. But this is the 3rd time I've seen - all during bfdg - and it's still kinda scary. Only to worry if it's projectile vomiting. Otherwise, it's supposedly okie. *scary*

She stopped feedg then started again at 8.15pm for about 1/2hr. Then she was put to bed. I was trying to figure out whether I should wake her up in 2 1/2hrs' time. That's 10.45. Then I decided to let her wake by herself. Mistake. She slept from about 9plus all the way to 4.30 this morning. I woke up at 3.50 to pump coz I had a double-rocky chest and was hoping she'll sleep thru tonite also. But she woke up.

But come to think of it - the nite before, she slept around 11plus and was woken up at 8am. That's about 9 hrs. Then now from 10 to 4 - that's 6 hrs. Well, although I'd experience 1 nite of all nite sleep thru, still her usual is 5 1/2hrs before next feed. But from last feed at 8.30pm and then again at 4.30pm, (feeds are calculated from the start of one to the start of next), that's about 8hrs. Pretty good still!

Well, today's proposed schedule:
8am (FWS), 11am (FWS), 2pm (FWS), 5pm (FWS), 8pm (FWS) (let's hope she can last till 8pm coz dinner is usually at 7.30pm and late afternoon supply is usual pretty low) and then 11pm (FS). That's 6 feeds at 3hr intervals. And then pray really hard that she sleeps thru. FWS stands for Feed/Wake/Sleep and F/W lasts for an hour while FS for Feed/Sleep. Apparently if the day is done properly, bb will be able to sleep thru the nite. *fingers crossed*

I'm not sure if lying in bed is considered sleeping, coz when we put her down in her crib to sleep, she looks around and then falls asleep only about after 20mins of winding down.

Wednesday, September 29, 2004

Woohoo! :)

I'm so happy I'm going to k.o. Abby slept thru the nite last nite! :D Last feed was 10pm and after changing she slept. I woke up at 4.30 coz i was swollen and praying that she'd sleep thru, and indeed this morning i had to wake her up at 8am for her morning feed! Although it has been extremely challenging to stay on a routine - it's not always successful - still a nite of success like this makes it all worth it!!

Also, after surfing online for Ezzo materials and meeting tons of Babywise criticisms, I was suddenly inspired to look up Yahoo! Groups and join them instead. The Internet can sometimes fail you. Sadly. I'm glad. Now i'm part of 3 groups:

1. Growing Kids
2. Ezzomoms
3. Routine Babies Support (Open to public)

Here's the official site's brief write-up about Preparation for Parenting.

I've read the book from cover to cover many times yet there are questions which I have unanswered. Having these groups, as well as the one i started with our parenting group but is dormant :P, will really help in stabilising a baby.

Really hope that eve will find these beneficial coz babies really test our character, endurance, patience, love and whatever tricks we have up our sleeves. A goodnight's sleep is much more highly coveted than a Tiffany's diamond ring for a mother, for most moms at least...

On a not so happy note, i heard abby cough yesterday. Not the choking kind where she chokes on milk, but out of the blue type. It sounded phlegmy. Also, she's been sneezing more frequently. Last nite she merlioned big time and looked quite zoned out. Maybe she was overstimulated yesterday, so she hasn't been feelg too well. I'm upping my Vit Cs and keep us quarantined until she gets better. Let's hope there's some semblance of a schedule today.

(Sorry folks, if you're looking for juicy details of my life, i'm currently a SAHM. Hardly any juice now.)
8am - feed, diaper change, play; 9.10am put down to bed for nap.
11.15am - woke her up to feed (took her own sweet time to feed - start/stop, when i tried to take her off she started again), put her down to bed at 1205pm for nap. No diaper change. Next feed at 2.15pm. So far so good. No bath interruptions.

Ben stayed up till 5am this morning to mark problem sums which i hadn't done. Slept till 9am. Managed to reach TM for mtg earlier than his counterpart! :D Also, thank God we pumped petrol last nite. He had to rush out of the house this morning.

Me thinking of enrolling with some car-sharing scheme so that I have more mobility than being stuck at home. Well, let's see how... at least not for these few days until Abby feels better. :)

K.O. time.

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K, she ate at 2pm and was put in bed at 3.30pm. Still awake. I'm beginning to suspect the real reason why she slept thru the nite was because she didn't have a decent nap yesterday. Her 2yo+ uncle ryan was terribly excited to see her and went "Baybee! Baybee!" the whole afternoon while we were at his place... he's absolutely adorable, and in his efforts to show his affection for her, kisses her on his own accord using his forehead, rocked her in her infant car seat, though pretty violently. I dun think Abby had a clue to wat was happening, just tat she kept opening her eyes throughout her nap. Then when we were at my mum's place, Joy was the other excited one. Kept barking and barking and barking. So abby decided to keep her eyes open all the way. By the time she got home, she was zonked out.

Monday, September 27, 2004

Mooncakes

It's Mooncake festival. Oh. Rather, it's Mid-Autumn festival. But being a Singaporean, it's all about food isn't it? Who on earth has been to the Chinese Garden to Cai1 Deng1 Mi2? It's all about food. About lotus double-yolk mooncake. Yeah. Mid-Autumn festival is good. The person who came up with Chang-er flying to the moon must have been so bitter with a certain Chang-Er who ran away with all his mooncakes and never came back. The battle was also all about mooncakes. Bet they threw the slip of paper away and ate the mooncake. Or did they eat that slip of important paper as well?

Things to Do Today...

1. Mark problem sums
2. Feed Abby
3. Pack wardrobe
4. Feed Abby
5. Watch telly
6. Feed Abby
7. Have dinner
8. Feed Abby

THE ROUTINE'S BEEN SCREWED. Sigh. We'll start from scratch. AGAIN. :p Heh, but she's adorable lah. :) Maybe Ben can kidnap me today to go swimming? Then gotta add item 9.

9. Pack swim bag.

:)

Saturday, September 25, 2004

Restart

Things are much better now. After a good heart-to-heart talk with Ben, we've implemented new boundaries that would facilitate better work and family life. :)

Went to church last nite. Now church consists of diaper-changing, a few moments of worship, sermon introduction, breastfeeding and then benediction. Last nite, instead of cell, we had church conference. Enlarge your tent. Here we go again... But God is good. Within a few moments (I had only a few moments), I caught the vision which Pastor Hoo imparted because God had impressed several issues within me as well. I am glad... so glad that what God has impressed within me IS COMING TO PASS! YESH! :D

So when I was breastfeeding (I had made sure I fed so that she could sleep throughout service, but but but...) Serene came over and we share ALOT! And God gave her a similar vision too! :D Both of us are very encouraged by our encounter, and I sense this is the beginning of GREAT things to come! :D

Eve got her wisdom toth extracted. Poor girl. No more Famous Anus cookies for her for the moment, until she recovers anyway. :)

Tollyjoy sale until Sunday I think... tempting. :) Now baby stuff fascinates me. :) I love my princess Abby. :)

Thursday, September 23, 2004

pleh

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Wednesday, September 22, 2004

Events

Ben's back from Jakarta - finally. still getting used to the 'wife-stays-at-home-while-hubby-flies-all-over-the-world' lifestyle. :S He came back around 10plus last nite, and we (Lina, Abby and I) waited at the airport for him. Saw Yean Loon, a fren from poly, but din say hi. He still looks the same, but 10 years older.

Dropped Ben off at Edgefield on the 20th September and then got lost around Punggol. Gosh. That place looks exactly like Seng Kang. Think they just photocopied the map/blueprint and then built the same stuff in 2 different estates. Went to aunt michelle's place for lunch - yum! :D Steak with potatoes and steamed veges. Spent the afternoon there catching up with her and looking at photos. I should spend more time with them b4 they fly off to sydney next year. This godma should do more for her godson... haven't been close with him, so he's very shy with me. :P

Went to mum's place around 7. For this overniter, I packed FOUR bags. One for me and 3 for Abby. And I used about 75% of the items I brought. Because of milking commitments, we ended up having dinner around 10. Ranz had a mini-tiff with Liz until he realised that he meant the world to her and that what he said mattered extremely alot to her. She had a terrible day at work and she wanted him to understand how she felt and just ooze in his arms. But that do-do was a perfect do-do. Told her that it didn't really matter, and that he could do anything, even if she told him every single detail that happened. Sigh. But thank God they had a great conversation after he realised what he had done and apologised to her. :) Still a gentleman nonetheless. ;)

Joy is a darling. She knows that Abby's out of reach... yet she's so excited seeing her! The whole nite at my mum's place (Ab n i were on my mum's bed while my mum took the lower mattress) Joy was pacing up and down wanting to see Abby, yet she knew she couldn't go on our bed. Normally she does. :) When I got up for the morning feed at 6, she kept peering at where Abby slept (Joy was on the floor looking up) while Abby was in my arms nursing. She's so cute. Whenever she's got the chance, she'll go sniff Abby's toes. :) Mum told me that when she tells Joy not to disturb Abby, she won't, as well as other instructions. :) Good girl! :D

So yesterday - 21 Sept 2004 - was the big day. Went to Family Court with my mum and ranz for the divorce proceedings. Waited quite a while and there were about as many couples wanting to divorce as there are wanting to get married at ROM, I suppose. When we entered the court, this executive-looking lady in sleeveless top exited. She had bruises on her arms and she looked happy. Guess she won or something. When we took our seat, we saw this man with a black eye. Wonder if they are related.

Alot of time passed before it was my parents' turn at the stand. Heard quite a number of cases... most of them married 6-7years, including 3-4 year separation! Effectively they're married for 2-3 years before filing for separation. But the events leading up to separation dussen happen overnite. So I guess they've had stormy marriages from the start? Usually they've got kids, and the kids are still v young. Very sad. Mum said that for those who wanna get married, they ought to come spend some time in the court before commiting themselves. How true. Either they think twice and get out or serious commit themselves to a 'NO DIVORCE' resolution.

After sitting for a really long time, I felt constipated. Thinking that it'll be a long time more (the last time my bro checked - there were 10 more cases before my parents' were heard) so i decided to go take a poop. Furthermore, when i left, another case just started. And they take a bloody long time. So I went. Before I left, my mum said, "When u go, it'll surely be our turn."

When I finished struggling on the white throne, which I think took about 10 mins, THEY WERE OUT. Not the poop, but my parents. It was all over. They were officially divorced. Not absolutely yet - that'll have to wait three months - but their case was heard and the judge passed it.

I missed another traumatising episode of my life while my brother had to witness it.

Throughout our lives, I've been shielded from these traumatic events - sub court seizing our possessions, dad attempting suicide, mum seriously pissed drunk and smeared with puke, dad being revived from his near death experience then calling out for the woman's name in cantonese while his real family looks on, and now this - while my brother who is seven years younger than me have witnessed all these. I think my bro shouldn't have to see all these. He's had enough for a life time. Not that I purposely 'siam' all these, but just tat I just don't get to be there when it happens.

Then I asked my bro, "Does your mind actually wander around places and linger in events while have happened a long time ago?"
"No. Why?"
"Oh."

I realised I may be a lil' different from others after taking an informal poll. I am still walking around my primary school, my secondary school, poly, uni, homes, etc whenever I am not actively thinking about anything. Yah. And it's always the same images. The video player has gone bonkers. It's looping non-stop.

Well. Just as well. Perhaps that's why I dun see all these.

Monday, September 20, 2004

Without Ben

I'm going to be strong and not worry too much when Ben's away to Jakarta during THEIR PRESIDENTIAL ELECTIONS. Gosh. What timing. Although I have been given assurance of God's hand upon him, still I can't help but miss him like crazy and worry for him.

Abby n I will camp over at my mum's place. It's a good opportunity to catch up with her and spend some time since I've been married 4 so long. Also, she can spend unhurried time with Abby. :) Tomorrow's the court hearing for the divorce, and i think God's timing is pretty awesome. I didn't realise it was tomorrow until she mentioned it yesterday. I won't be going with her but my brother would, so she's not alone. :)

Had a horrible horrible dream. But I'm glad it's reality here... and I'm glad everything's alright. Abby's sleeping longer now - the nite before she didn't wake up for her 4am feed!!! :) Last nite she didn't wake up for her 12.30am feed but did for the 4.30am, so it's the reverse. Let's see how she does tonite...

Uploaded some pictures in Abigail's album, and my favourite is the truck shot. See if you can identify it! :D Hehehe... :)

Abby's baby dedication is on this Sunday, 26 Sept 2004, which also coincides with Aunt Mich's weddiing anniversary! :) Am so glad to be able to dedicate her to God! :D

Lastly, I'm really looking forward to the day when we can have a Vicky, Josh & Abby outing! :D Thanks Siew Lin for the offer! :D

Friday, September 17, 2004

My Baby can...

Today as she slept on her tummy (yup, she's under supervision when I put her on her tummy), she managed to change the position of her head from right to left! Or either that, I witnessed it! :) Heh, it's different from the usual change, coz then she's awake. Now she's asleep yet she's able to do it! :)

A couple of days ago, I noticed she fell asleep really quickly when placed on her tummy. I placed her there coz I thought she could get some exercise done, and she mustered all her strength, turned from left to right, and promptly fell asleep straightaway! She did that again yesterday with Ben! He heard her grunting, and then SILENCE. Yup. Fell asleep.

Also, either yesterday or the day before, after she finished her feed, I cleaned up the place and went back to bed while she was in Ben's arms. As I crawled in, she looked at me and SMILED!!! Wow! Usually we have no idea how to stimulate her to produce a smile (all the coochy-coos dun work... anyway we dun coochy-coo much :P) but she SMILED!!! I was on cloud 9!! :D Shucks. If only I was more diligent in blogging, then I could get the exact dates... Now I have no idea what date it is. I'm at home most of the time, and only go out sometimes in the evenings. Abby goes with us, so I guess the thinks nitetime is going-out time. :P Bad parents...

Oh, she's outgrowing her clothes already! Maybe when I manage to post photos on Flickr! then I'll be able to post them here. Meanwhile, wait k! :D (Or if you're smart enough, you'd already have seen her pictures if u maneuveur carefully around this site. But warning: OVERLOAD AHEAD! :D)

Thursday, September 16, 2004

A Baby Book?

Received a suggestion, or rather, a reminder, to start a baby book for Abby. She'll appreciate it, i'm assured, when she grows up as the author of the book is her mummy and the book is about her! I guess so, if I had one, I think I'll appreciate it too! :D She's now 1 month 2 weeks old, and I'm not sure if it's too late to start... Well, I guess this blog would be able to help me recollect some details. Talking about this blog, everything's in soft copy, think many years down the road, I'm not sure if I'll still continue blogging, or would it become extinct like everything else?

Well, slowly resuming my QT with God. Thank God for Eve, who's been an encourager in terms of my walk, and I'm glad that I've got someone pushing me! :P

Ok, just for the record, my days are almost pretty routine:

3AM - nite feed (I sleep after that)
7AM - morning feed (continue sleeping)
10AM - late morning feed (have my breakfast while she bathes, then wash up)
12.30PM - afternoon feed (have my lunch and go online while she's on her bouncer)
3PM - late afternoon feed (try to catch a nap)
6PM - evening feed (watch Ode to Life - crappy drama serial but I'm hooked anyway and have dinner)
9PM - late evening feed (talk to Ben, wash up and try to head for bed)
12MN - nite feed (If I didn't succeed in heading for bed just now, I try again here... )

I get about 7hrs rest, still remember to brush my teeth twice a day, watch my telly, go online, play with Abby and stay in touch with my friends via SMS, MSN and Yahoo Msgr. Think not too bad eh? :D Praise God! :D

Friday, September 10, 2004

He has made me glad

Days have been up and down, but God is good. :) After many yrs of longing and occasional prayers (*confession* I haven't been faithful in prayer and my QT...) God has finally provided an accountability partner, Eve. He has given me many girlfriends which I'm so thankful for, such as Elise, Michelle, Siew Lin, Eve and Mei Yin. You see, prior to this, I've been in trouble countless times for having just guy friends and no girlfriends. This is a problem when u're insecure, and actions which are done by these guys are often misinterpreted as loving gestures and then I fall like mad. Not exactly proud of my track record, but proud of the fact that God has changed me alot. I am no longer one who is the hot topic for scandals and because of His faithfulness, He has blessed me with a loving husband and a wonderful daughter. :) Although sin has its consequences, but He counts us sinless because of what Jesus Christ has done for us. I am so glad for that! To bear the consequences of sin is one thing, but to have the face of God turn away from me is pure torture! What more when I turn my back on Him?

With this newfound precious gem of an accountability relationship which I've asked for many years, I am glad and honoured that I have this privilege. Romans 15, especially verses 1 & 2, states, "1We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. 2Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up." At times, one of us is strong while the other is weak, thus by God's grace, we are able to support each other in this challenging but rewarding journey. It takes open hearts to be able to be accountable to each other, and a close walk as well. It's agape love that allows this to take place too - when it's hard to tell another person that he or she needs to realign their lives in a closer walk with God.

I am also glad that Ben is enjoying his new job. I can see so many changes in him and really admire the way he has risen up. The work that God has done, and is doing in him, is marvellous. I can only say that I am underserving of such a man, yet by God's grace, Ben has been placed in my life for me to cherish and honour. :) Right now, Ben is enjoying his exercise regime, something which he has been wanting to do yet couldn't kickstart it. Although work is tiring and he works till late at nite, I can see that he is enjoying it thoroughly. And most of all, he is quick to get out of bed now! Hahah... for his baby and his work. It used to be a drag trying to get him out of bed, especially for work. Now I dun even hear his alarm and when I get up, he is already out of the house! Wow... :) God is good rite! Heh. :D

Abby is growing wonderfully and sometimes trying to get her on the routine is a challenge. So I've decided, the PDF routine will be used to enhance the quality of our lives, but not be a master to our lives. I almost wanted to eliminate the authors! I think I pass with flying colours on the theory, but when u hand me a live baby, I score zero on practicum. :p

She's sleeping soundly now, thus I can squeeze in some time to blog. Well, my life works in 1 1/2 hr intervals... so depending on which 1 1/2 hr u catch me, I could either be a holy cow (reading bible & praying while being milked), asleep, taking a bath or eating. That's it. I really pray that I can re-enter society come January 3, 2005. It's scary. Especially when everyone else in school has been in the momentum, while my momentum is way different from theirs.

A four month stint at being a fulltime homemaker (actually I dun make the home, just care for the baby) or baby caregiver has definitely changed my life from the fourth gear to the second gear. Talking about gears, the Mazda's alternator decided to self-combust because it was tired of living. It started emitting burnt smells, then the fourth gear died while Ben was on BKE on the way to a school in the west, then off the BKE the car went and so did the third gear. By the time Ben reached the school, it was moving on either 2nd or 1st gear, and when he stopped the car, the first gear heaved its last breath and passed out. Ben was saved from having to switch off the engine. Imagine what could have happened? Actually nothing.

So the vehicle paramedics came and whipped the Mazda away at a charge of $30 and Ah Kuang, the transport GP, diagnosed it as alternator failure and performed surgery on it. Subsequent medical warning was - "Don't start car for other people har. Their battery empty and your battery full, sure spoil your alternator one." Well. Yes Dr Ah Kuang, we'll definitely take care of our alternator from now onwards, sleep early, eat healthily and exercise regularly.

Thursday, September 09, 2004

Saturday, September 04, 2004

Songs of a Worshiper

Can download worship songs from this site by Galvin. Scroll down and check out the songs in the left column. My personal favourite: More than I Can Ever Imagine.

My princess is awake. She laughed today! :) I had gurgling sounds from her cot, didn't know what it was. Later after her feed, she laughed and I recognised the same gurgling sounds! :D So cute until can die... :)

Wednesday, September 01, 2004

B A B I E S

EVE IS ABOUT TO DELIVER!!! YIPPEE!! :D WELCOME VICTORIA! :D

It's been a long but pleasant journey. And the journey ahead is longer still... but by God's grace, we'll make it through. I still can't cease to be amazed with how he orchestrates our lives and puts precious people in it! :D Like what elise said in my friendster's testimonial - who says we dun meet our chums late in life? How true this is. As life stages progress, I find myself in the young mother's group. If not for Siew Lin and Eve, I think motherhood would be really alien (Can 'alien' be used as an adjective like this? *scratch head*). Heh.

Just had full month celebration on Sunday. There were SO MANY people! We had a 'generous' estimate of 80 -

Ben's relatives - 20
Audrey's relatives - 20
MPFSC - 20
Ben & Audrey's friends - 20 (very generous figure)

But more than 120 turned up. And we still had a lot of leftovers. Praise God! They DB (darbao) quite a bit back home, yet my in-laws are still eating them for BLD - breakfast, lunch and dinner.

The downside of having soo many people is that we couldn't talk to those whom we really wanted to talk to. Wanting to catch up with close peeps but having to juggle with feeds was quite a handful. Each feed lasts at least 40 minutes - and during this 40 minutes (2 sessions of them) people came and left. I think if condos had responses like that for their open house, their units would sell like hotcakes! :D

People came all the way here to see Abby, but she couldn't be seen coz she was plugged to my chest. Sigh. I feel pretty bad. Well, at least for those in that double 40 minute slot. Also, there were people who came and left coz there were too many people. Gosh.

Well, by about 3-4plus, people started leaving, so we panicked less and started having sane conversations with those who were still around. I think I didn't catch up with most of my relatives. :P Well, hopefully we'll be able to do so sometime in the near future.

The red packet were really a godsend. The amount covered nicely the areas we portioned and it's just amazing how God works. It's even more amazing to see some of the gifts we received. I think there was this outfit for Abby when she turns 6. That big. Heh. But the gifts were lovely. My MIL was quite amused when she saw the pigeon's tit pads. Heh.

Well, a big thank you to all those who've blessed us with ur presence and presents. We are really blessed. :)